I have had a break from the blog in the last few months. Life got very busy. My work life balance was completely out of synch and overwhelm and anxiety crept in.
The Aussie flu did more than just put us in bed for a week over Christmas and help me lose half a stone (every cloud), I had a nice break from screen time and plenty of time to think and shuffle things round to ensure that 2018 is a slower, calmer year all round.
I love writing. I find the process cathartic and meditative.
I am open and honest, I don’t often think about people reading my articles and it prevents me from over thinking things.
Friends say that I write like I chat. I like that.
My blog started when Dad was ill and I was a stay at home Mum. I documented days out with the boys and noted down funny things that they said. The blog has led to lots more writing opportunities.
Last year I wrote lots for Metro. I love writing for Metro and some of the articles went down a treat online. My most popular articles were ten things you only know as a mum to boys and 7 reasons why Worthing is a better place to live than London (controversial I know).
All the writing for other people has left little time for the blog. This is something I would like to remedy in 2018.
We had the best Mark Warner holidays skiing in France and sailing in Sardinia last year. With no family to help, we have zero time off from the kids together as a couple. We can’t have a night away together without paying a babysitter a small fortune and Mark Warner was the perfect solution for us. I used some money when we sold my parents house to book the holidays as a much-needed break for us all.
The kids went to kids clubs each morning and had a blast, Dan and I spent time reconnecting as a couple and having fun. Each night the boys went to film club and we enjoyed a few drinks over dinner.
We also went to stay in the hills above Malaga at the amazing Padre Aviles, in the grounds of a 17th century converted convent. It was like being on a retreat and we hope to go back next year, tennis, swimming, mountain air and views out to sea, plus family friendly apartments, I cannot recommend it enough.
Autumn sun at Padre Aviles
A trip to beautiful Wales with my sister and a weekend with the girls in Majorca, all fulfilled my love of travel, something I have missed so much since having the boys. 2018 goals are to travel more in the UK and abroad and document it on the blog.
The words mental health cover so many different areas of my life. Anxiety last year was a new thing for me, looking back now I can see that it has been creeping in slowly since I had children. My middle one has sensory issues, he can have big meltdowns and is so impulsive that when we go out to places he often runs off exploring without telling us, it makes my heart stop at times. I do find support with this but to date it is online, we are trying to get through a system that it poorly funded and very time consuming. I hear that once we get help it will be life changing for us all but three years in and it can be tricky to always be upbeat about the fight ahead.
I also miss my parents, that’s okay; I accept that I will always miss them, it still doesn’t stop the real physical pain and sadness that they aren’t here at times. The topics aren’t upbeat but they are real. They are happening right here in my house and in many people’s houses. Talking about it makes people feel less alone and when I read about it I feel less alone. Win win. I recently wrote a little about it in Mental Mutha a brilliant new website set up by Natasha Bailie, all about mental health and mums.
Learning more about the blogging process
Someone recently asked me about affiliate marketing and blogs. I had no idea what the answer to her question would be. I have never done a linky ( I don’t even know what one is), don’t understand the difference between a meta tag and a meta tarsal (well I do but you know what I mean). I simply opened up a WordPress account four years ago and started writing. I am not sure what is going on half the time in the blogging world but do know some ace people on Instagram who write interesting, hilarious, inspiring blogs.
I would however like to learn more than I currently know and Twins That Travel, along with The Travel Hack are holding a Bloggers Retreat in Somerset in an amazing Unique Homestay house with a pool. They are going to answer all these sorts of questions. Visit England and Visit Somerset are also planning a wonderful trip out for all attendees, this would be a real opportunity to practice my travel writing and enjoy some of the beautiful countryside in Somerset. One of my goals is to be there, to learn some stuff and to swim in that pool! This blog post is not only my first of the year but also my entry to win the golden ticket to the retreat. Keep your fingers crossed for me, I think that it would be amazing.